So I’ve been reading this fantastic book called Deeper Dating. It was the result of a few painful conversations with my life coach about why I was sabotaging all my potential relationships, or mostly just not even looking for them. I knew that not dressing well-enough, or having the right pick up lines wasn’t what was really keeping me from finding true love. What we discovered together is that I would never find love if I didn’t first start loving myself. The fact is, I had just been too pragmatic about dating from the start: I knew it was a pointless endeavor to ask someone else to love someone I didn’t.